When I started writing Celebration, I didn’t really know how I was going to make the book happened – I just wanted to tell a story from beginning to end. I wanted it to be optimistic and also a medium to express what I was going through.
And so, I knew from the beginning that it was going to be about my own experiences. However, I also knew that I didn’t want to put myself out there, because as much as I love self-help books and biographies and memoirs, I figured it would be easier to put my thoughts and my own troubles and expectations through the lens of someone else. So I created the character of Abigail hoping that her story would connect with others.
There’s something reassuring in knowing that you are not alone with your emotions and chaos… that you can find some peace and solace in writing. So I guess it gave me some perspective, some clarity and even some distance. That’s weird right how we need to see it from others to actually get it, make sense of it. I wanted to put my own reflections into the steps of someone who did not exist and yet who you could completely relate to. And so it felt like meeting someone that really got what I was going through without judging me because I was really struggling because You can feel really lonely when you’re in that state and very vulnerable so it helped me to make someone else go through it so that I could become the observer. I could then take some distance and sort of take the measure of it all.
And without really realising it, I was combining self-development and fiction writing: a fiction to heal.
Once I got that figured out, then I asked myself: What can I share ? How much am I willing to share? And how my experience can help as in what is so special about what I am going through?
I think the most important topic I cover in Celebration is healing.
Adults tend to learn through massive trauma and so learning a “life lesson” is usually a very painful experience because it forces us to see things we might not want to see or might have been diligently avoiding for a while.
Healing is usually the step that follows the seeing of the truth. Seeing the truth in our experience and welcoming this change, wether it was wanted or not requires us to be brave and vulnerable too. It’s like shedding old skin and exposing ourselves, even challenging our identity because the more willing and open you are to experience the truth of your life and your own self and the more you’ll be able to grow.